When I Reject you, I Reject a Part of My SELF.
What if, every person who is drawn to my life in any way, shape, or form (partner, ex, children, mom or dad, etc) is not just a reflection of my Self… what if they are a manifested facet of myself?
When I reject you, I reject a part of me at the same time. When I lash out at you, I am lashing out at me. When I see the “wrong” you have done or still do, could it be an exaggeration of the wrong I have done to me or others - even if I feel more justified when I do it, even if I am not “as bad” as they seem to be acting? When I judge you, I am really judging me. When I don’t understand you or I am frustrated with you, are there any parts of me I don’t understand or am frustrated with? When people reject me… where have I rejected myself? When people are not true to their word, where have I not been true to my own word?
What if what they need right now is for me to ask what I would need when I’m not operating in my highest self?
When you are in front of me, and you are not operating in the way I expect, how can I see my Self in you and treat you exactly how I need to be treated when I feel scared, broken, hurt, or angry. How can I acknowledge their hurt and see past the behaviour they are using to try and protect themselves?
What if the way I treat others is the way I have treated my Self for years? What if the way to healing is looking at the collective and realizing that the reflection I see in the water drop is still within the very same ocean I am, you are, we are… the facets of good within others, the facets we judge within others, the facets of power, the facets of hate, the facets of love. We are all one in the same ocean.
It takes a lot of self awareness to see our inner wounds and how they show up in subtle and obvious ways to each other every single day.
This path is not easy.
I have healed so much in the last decade. It’s not time for me to say “I now don’t have time for your toxicity.” It’s time for me to turn around and stand as source of healing for the parts of you that used to remind me of me - even if the view of you on the outside looks so much different than the view I have of myself on the inside.
Who are you feeling frustrated with, angry with, done with today and where have you shown up to your Self in the same way, even if not so obvious.
This is not to say you need to have the people who behave poorly in your inner circle or even in your outer circle, but it’s an invitation to ask yourself why you invited them there in the first place. Perhaps… why you keep inviting versions of them in your life to this day.
I do a lot of inner child work with others, breaking the chains that keep you stuck. It’s a rapid transformation that goes beyond mindset and brings you home to the root, soul awakening needed in order to heal, shift, and break free toward your birthright’s freedom.
If you’re interested in a free little exercise I use to become Aware, to Awaken, and to Allow, comment, “freedom” below or let me know if this resonated.
This is something that has helped transform my life and Lord knows I needed it a decade ago so I hope it helps you take the first step or final destination toward transformation as well.
You are me and I am you.