From Breakdowns to Breakthroughs - A Little Story of Healing.

Ten years ago, I traded “lose-myself” to “find myself.” I didn’t realize how much I suppressed pain for positivity!

I loved my family through the lens of perfection-colored-goggles no matter what the situation. I was strong through it all, not allowing any weakness to show - not even to myself.

But I forgot one important aspect to a truly peaceful nervous system:

If you trade pain for positivity it will come back to haunt you.

Invisible shadows and whispered tensions were expressed through my children: forms of night terrors, lack of focus, their own experiences of rejections and abandonment, and mental and physical health issues. I just never realized how my past would echo through their lives for years.

When I entered the world of healing from my soul instead of using logic-and-love alone to raise my children, I realized they don’t learn from lectures or good intentions; they learn from the energy they feel at home.

So I turned my own healing into daily homework.

I began rewriting my story by loving the little girl inside me and awakening to the pain. I didn’t know how much I judged her, rejected her, misunderstood her… abandoned her.

I finally understood why that little girl of my past, that teenage girl of my past, and even all the inner women of my 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s acted as she did, and when judgment turned into compassion, the constant sense of being misunderstood by so many others lost its grip on my life.

And then something beautiful happened: my children started reflecting the same shift!

As I reframed my past, my own children mirrored the healing in real time! Watching their growth confirmed the deepest truth I know: when a parent heals, the whole family rises.

It was messy, raw, imperfect, real.

Here’s the miracle:

-my children now know how to stand in the gap for their own inner child, helping me heal even more as a result! You see it goes both ways in generational healing!

Children regulate to the safest nervous system in the room, so I decided to become it. Not the strong on the outside scared on the inside parent. Not the quiet on the outside anxious on the inside parent. The parent who embodies this teaching from the inside out can be the source of profound transformation for everyone in your inner circle, even when its time for you or your children to leave the nest.

If any part of this story tugs at you, know this: your own healing writes a new childhood for your children. You don’t have to be perfect; you just have to be in process.