Feeling lonely WITHIN your relationship? Read on…

Can you relate to a relationship that feels more lonely WITHIN the relationship than it felt being alone?

Then this post might be for you.

There’s one Soul Truth card that won’t stop showing up for me lately:

What expectations do I have that are impossible to meet?”

Oh, this card! Today, I finally sat with it more deeply.

I’ve always loved being in relationships. I might even be addicted to connection! Can you relate?

But the last two years have stretched me in ways I never imagined.

A 2 1/2 year, long-distance relationship.

Becoming an empty nester after 21 years of full-on motherhood.

It’s been some of the loneliest, most tender terrain I’ve walked through.

But the loneliness didn’t start there.

What I realized is this:

I feel the most lonely when I’m with someone who isn’t pleased with me.

That one hits hard.

Why? Because it reveals how deeply I’ve tied my nervous system to someone else’s emotional state. “What can I do to make you happy with me again?” That’s the hidden script I’ve been running my whole life.

Whether it’s their silent withdrawal or their tangible frustration, I feel it all. And I can’t seem to calm the storm inside me until they’ve calmed the storm inside them toward me.

And that’s when it hit me. I’ve been tethered to their validation, their mood. their energy. their lens.

No wonder my nervous system is exhausted! No wonder I’ve been a fixaholic my whole life! No wonder I have a degree in Psychology, a Certificate in Family Life Studies, and have been a Life/Health Coach for almost two decades! I have dedicated my adult life to helping others!

Can you see it now?

As I’ve been healing, I’ve realized something big: True and honest peace has nothing to do with someone else’s emotional thermostat toward me - especially when I know they’re thermostat has nothing to do with who I am, but rather, the frequency of my sub-conscious.

Question: What could it feel like if I stayed anchored in my own peace, even when the storm hits all around me? I’ll tell you: you walk on water with the knowing that through the veil lies peace.

This storm is merely a reflection of your inner faith.

Untethering.

With love.

With compassion.

With clarity.

My journey now is about reflecting what’s already alive inside others…

so they can remember how to come home to themselves;

so they can stand in their own peace… even when the world around them forgets its own.